Soft swap vs hard swap

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The term hard swap is used frequently by those in the swing lifestyle. It refers to a situation in which two or more couples are free to enjoy nearly all types of sexual activities with other couples, including penetrative sex. Many hard swap swingers, however, still have limits on what they will and won't do in a full swap situation. For instance, some swingers may not participate in anal sex with other couples and others may only be comfortable with same room sex. Before entering the swing lifestyle, it's important for you and your partner to communicate your desires.

Different Types of Swingers

Soft swap vs. full swap : Swingers

Everyone is a little bit different, and good sex is going to be a little bit different for every person. As with any type of community, swingers come in many different shapes and forms. We are going to cover the distinct types of swingers and nomenclature you will likely encounter as you explore the swinging lifestyle. This is more about learning the many different shades of gray in the swinging lifestyle than it is about applying labels to stereotype people or box them in. People can be a little bit of two things, a little bit of three things, or even a little bit of everything. There are no swinging police that are checking paperwork to make sure you stay in your lane — unless you are attending a swinging costume party and like to be frisked by sexy people!


This question is posed on every swinger networking site and is crucial information for couples seeking other partners for play. First, we should go over some definitions. There is a common misconception among new swingers as seen on many misinformed message boards and chat rooms that soft swapping simply means same room sex, where each couple has sex only with their own partner while occupying the same room, or that soft swapping only means female-female play. This is not the case. Soft swapping can encompass a wide range of activities, from kissing, to fondling and for some couples, even oral sex with one or more people outside the couple.
For the first 18 months of our lifestyle journey, Mr Jones and I were a soft swap couple. Playing with other couples without the added complications that full swap sex can bring was enough for us at that time. What complications you ask?